It’s really really hard to love our bodies sometimes. On a daily basis we’re barraged with information about how a body ‘should’ look, and also with slurs against bodies that are less than perfect (which is every body). This poor woman was driven to tears by a bunch of nasty school kids on a bus. Honestly I didn’t even watch the whole 10 minute video, it’s just stupid naive kids following each other in being horribly mean to a sweet old lady.

These kids, who are so busy deriding someone for being ‘fat’ and ‘ugly’, obviously didn’t come up with those ideas independently. The fact that someone needs to teach these brats some manners is almost besides the point – those kids are probably learning that the hard way right now, since i can’t imagine that any of their parents are particularly proud of them for being the latest bullies to be plastered all over the internet.

I think the way we talk is really important, not only is the way that we talk indicative of the way that we think, but also the things we say shape our thoughts. If we lived in a society where nobody talked about ‘fatness’ or ‘ugliness’, it would have never occurred to these kids to launch these slurs at Karen  Klein. Maybe they would have found other words to use, but the point stands – we’re way too obsessed with these ideas around size and look (duh).

Also on the internets today:

” Not being assaulted is not a privilege to be earned through the judicious application of personal safety strategies. A woman should be able to walk down the street at 4 in the morning in nothing but her socks, blind drunk, without being assaulted, and I, for one, am not going to do anything to imply that she is in any way responsible for her own assault if she fails to Adequately Protect Herself. Men aren’t helpless dick-driven maniacs who can’t help raping a vulnerable woman. It disrespects EVERYONE. “

Can I get an ‘amen’?

In it’s own way, this is a cookie cutter of my previous point. The way we (and by ‘we’ I mean ‘society’) talk about victims is extremely disturbing. We need some new vocabulary (and by ‘new vocabulary’ I’m not literally talking about creating new words, just getting the hell over the victim blaming and speaking differently about what causes rape – which is rapists). Anyone who knows me may be annoyed to be hearing the same tired stuff yet again, but we need to keep talking about this stuff, we need it to be really conscious – that’s the only way that we can meaningfully change our behaviour around this issue. So I’m gonna keep harping on about it (“I am sorry people are so tired of me writing about misogyny. I occasionally get tired of living in a world defined by it.”).

Also, lots of stuff about vaginas, and legislation about vaginas, and how upsetting it is to a bunch of men when you use the word ‘vagina’. Ugh.

Which makes me think, a) I’m sooooo thankful that I don’t live the the USA, and b):

And this is brilliant:

Also, Laci Green has something to say about say about boobs.

Apparently some study in Europe (go figure) says that it’s kind-of sort-of ok to drink while pregnant.

A new study about the way we talk about atheletes says that we are more likely to say male atheletes have skill, but that female atheletes have luck. Huh.

And, on what I posted the other day about Anita Sarkeesian, this guy also has some really good points.  Maybe we need to break out the sexism in video games bingo card.

Love the hell out of yourselves folks.

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